Eddie Fews: A Message To Tomorrow Men

Dear Tomorrow Men:

Recently I had been developing a platonic relationship with a girl that mentioned that she was an artist. She didn’t make too big of a deal of it, and because of this I didn’t either. I just figured she drew pictures as a hobby – nothing too serious. It wasn’t until yesterday that I finally asked her to see something she had drawn. She reluctantly showed me and boy was I AMAZED. This girls art was outstanding. I personally have never been into art, but my love for women has made me a sucker for beauty and God knows was her work beautiful. I began telling her how great the art was; and she humbly thanked me, while attempting to change the subject.. But I wanted to know more!

We began talking about some of the pieces and she began telling me about people who wanted to buy her art and friends that wanted to place some of her work in exhibits. She would appreciate the offers, but she didn’t think too much of her art, and due to this, she remained a closet artist. She wanted to wait until she could afford better paints, better brushes, canvas etc. because she was “sure” that she would be able to create to the best of her abilities once she got better supplies. Now although that sounds perfectly logical, she was neglecting the fact that there was already a demand for the work she had now. Who is she to tell someone that they shouldn’t spend money on her art? What makes a painting from a great street artist less expensive than a painting from Pablo Picasso? Surely the street artist could of placed more effort and been more creative than Picasso, but the work isn’t appreciated as much as the belief behind it.

How many of you can relate to this?

How many of you have said “ Once I get my six pack I’ll go out and approach women? “ and then when you get the six pack, you see this coat you want and you say “ Once I get that coat I’ll feel confident enough to talk to girls “, and when you finally get that coat you wake up with a pimple on your forehead an you say “ once this pimple goes away…” and so on and so on.. This is the life pattern of a tomorrow man. And what all tomorrow men realize after life has passed them by is “ Tomorrow never came..”

Some how some of you think that one day the stars are just going to align and God himself is going to descend from out of the heavens and tell you that your time is now. News flash: The stars are never going to align and there are never going to be a moment when you say “ Okay I’m ready now”. There is always going to be some obstacle, some insecurity that is going to get in the way of us doing anything we want to do. This is the way the mind works! We have a thought of certainty, followed by a thought of doubt. And the successful man knows that the thought of doubt is no more real than the day dream he had minutes prior of him flying like an eagle. The mind is like a television; and we have to choose what channel we are going to tune into at any given moment. If you let it get out of control, it’ll begin changes the channels for you; as it often already does. Are we going to tune into doubt or are we going to tune into certainty?

If you are going to accomplish anything in your life, it is important that you ACT NOW. I repeat there will NEVER be a time in which you will feel the time is more appropriate than you already feel it is at this very moment.

I know a couple of men who are over weight and unattractive (by Western standards) that do great with women. How? Because they have developed the understanding that they are never going to feel more confident than they can decide to now. In their minds, they are ALREADY GOOD ENOUGH. And nine times out of ten, a girl is going to believe about you what you already believe about yourself. If you think you’re a loser, they’ll think you’re a loser. If you think you’re funny, your behavior will reflect this and they’ll think you’re funny. Take your favorite comedian for example; do you think he can hand the jokes to his set and you can just go recite it on a stage and make people laugh? Without a strong self belief that the words on this paper are funny? Without a belief that people are going to laugh at them? These guys know they’re overweight, but they still FEEL attractive. Who can tell them that they aren’t? Are we saying that, because they don’t look like the models on Calvin Klein ads they’re not attractive? Who made those guys the representation of what is sexy? We did.. And we can change this.

*Just know that health is important, so in no way am I suggesting that you should be unhealthily just because you are still successful with women. I am merely saying that it is foolish to think that losing weight is going to make you feel that much more secure in acting than you already feel now. Women like men that like themselves – its as simple as that. *

So you’re probably wondering what could you do to begin to root your mind in a place of taking action. I think this quote I will share below will offer you a bit of insight.

“I will act now. I will act now. I will act now. Henceforth, I will repeat these words each hour, each day, everyday, until the words become as much a habit as my breathing, and the action which follows becomes as instinctive as the blinking of my eyelids. With these words I can condition my mind to perform every action necessary for my success. I will act now. I will repeat these words again and again and again. I will walk where failures fear to walk. I will work when failures seek rest. I will act now for now is all I have. Tomorrow is the day reserved for the labor of the lazy. I am not lazy. Tomorrow is the day when the failure will succeed. I am not a failure. I will act now. Success will not wait. If I delay, success will become wed to another and lost to me forever. This is the time. This is the place. I am the person.” ~ Og Mandino

I know this article is speaking to someone.. What is it that you are putting off doing? If you have time to read this article, you have time to get started on whatever it is you need to be acting on. It could be as small as the dishes that are sitting in the sink, but whatever it maybe.. Go do it now, because tomorrow never comes.

Eddie Fews


For consultation and personal instruction email me: EddieFews@WayOfThePlayer.com

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  • A much needed message that we all needed to hear.

  • Andy

    Great article Ed, very true words

  • Dave

    Excellent article Eddie, this really hit home.

  • Another classic man. Right on!

  • rob p

    Great write up, Eddie. You really have a gift for motivating us fellas. Thanks.