My Friends Predicament
Just recently I was having a conversation with a good friend of mine by the name of ‘Daniel’ and we were discussing the most recent falling out he had with a girl he began dating.
He called me to explain the situation to me and we concluded that he was giving too much of himself away to the girl too soon. He hadn’t left space for her to invest in him emotionally, physically, mentally, or even financially; and because he was giving and not receiving(or even cared about receiving) he was sub-communicating to the girl that she was more valuable then he was; thus she began to lose attraction for him.
I may catch some slack for this, but what I explained to Daniel is, ‘it is important that women are giving more into the interaction than he is.’ Ultimately it is the “Man” that will carry the woman into the future, therefore for her to be deserving of such a fate, she had better begin to offer more of herself.
As the “man” in the relationship I am all for paying for our outings but I will always make a point or two to have the woman I am out with pay for something; less expensive of course. If we’re out for a day at the movies I’ll say something along the lines of “ I’ll buy the tickets, you buy the popcorn”. Sure I can afford the price of the popcorn, tickets, and then some, but it is important that I know the women I am out with is willing to make an “investment” of some sort.
It shows that she’s giving, caring, and willing to support me if I ever needed her to.
I remember when I was having this similar conversation with an old girlfriend of mine. I told her “I don’t mind paying for everything, in fact I will, but it’s important to a man to know that his woman would be ‘willing’ to do so.”
Feminism vs. Reality
I know this is contradictory to the popular feminist culture we live in today but it is the nature of the woman to be the supporter of the man. It is deep rooted in the core of true feminist; so as the man if I am going to be a woman’s foundation, protector, and provider it is important to me that I make sure any woman I am with is holding up her end of the bargain.
I understand that I gave financial examples above, but financial investment is the least of your worries. Finical investment is just a tangible example that is easy for both ends to understand. Women must be willing to give to you without any expectation of receiving anything in return; which is why when my girl is on her period that becomes “Blow Job” week.
Women should want to please their man and men should want to please their women, we just have different ways of achieving this. This discussion is not attacking the fundamentals of equality between men and women but rather, it is addressing the differences and sex specific investments that both men and women bring to the table.
So to the future and current players out there, when you are dealing with women make sure their investments are “Clear”. If you feel you are investing more than she is into the relationship there is a strong chance she doesn’t have the respect for you that it would take for either of you to be fulfilled in a relationship.
In David Deida’s book “ Way Of The Superior Man” he clearly states that a mans course in life is fulfillment of his soul purpose, and a woman’s course in life is to find fulfillment within a relationship. This again makes it clear that a “girlfriend/Wife” will never be the complete source of your happiness but should support you in finding and achieving your ultimate purpose in life whatever that may be.
Beautiful women are not pets that you need to feed luxury items and expensive dinners to or else they run away; you can certainly do these things but if you are a self respecting man you will expect your women to earn that treatment by supporting and pleasing you any way that she can. It’s not an unreasonable expectation, it’s actually quite realistic as I know a lot of men who have these kinds of relationships.
Be true to yourself and your dreams, look for a partner in the women that you meet and love and not just somewhere warm and moist to put your dick. You can have that ideal woman, but ultimately she will be a product of your own behavior and attitude towards her and the relationship.
By Eddie Fews[social_share/]
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