By Eddie Fews
Whether you are in an intimate relationship, a social circle, or among colleagues you have one main priority as a Player and that is to LEAD. Indecision is lower than the ground we walk on as Players.
A Player knows what he wants and he gets exactly what he wants. ” Hey guys, lets all go grab some sushi ” followed by grabbing his jacket, making his way to the door, expecting others to follow is a normal action taken by a Player. A Player goes after what he wants because he expects all(even the universe) to be receptive to what he wants. The Player is ALWAYS the leader.
2. Be Your Own Best Friend
A Player understands that for people to love him and desire to be around him, he must first be his own best friend. Humanity is attracted to the people who appear the happiest despite what there situation may be. We’re are born alone and we will die alone so it is imperative that you learn to love being with yourself. Boring people are the only ones that are ever bored, they attract boring people and live generally boring lives. Players live fun fueled exciting lives and can be often happily spotted at bars, clubs, restaurants etc. completely alone. No-one completes a Player, a Player is already complete.
3. Fill Your Heart With Optimism
Players are very often than the most optimistic people that you will ever come across. If a girl ignores a Players phone call or text he thinks ” Oh, she must be busy or I’m sure the call didn’t get through, I’ll just try again later”.
If a woman rejects a Player he understands because after all she must have a valid reason for telling him no, but there is still a chance she will rethink her decision and change her mind, so he demands acceptance just a bit more than the average Joe. Players can do all things and it is because of that we keep optimism in our hearts.
4. Make Others Feel Loved
Players have a way of looking at life that means everyone around them feel loved whenever they’re hanging out.
Players are giving – both physically and emotionally. They want everyone around them smiling and having a good time. It pains the Player to see anyone in his group not enjoying themselves and he makes it his mission to fill his circle with this same joy that he has for life itself. As a Player people will be happy when you’re around and when you’re not around that will be talking about you wishing you could be there.
5. Tell The Truth
We have all lied at one point of our lives and a tiny white lie here and there will do us or others no direct harm, but lying as a whole is for the normal. Players have made the decision to be honest always and to accept all the consequences that follow. Everyone may not like you for it, but they will have no choice but to respect you.
6. Take Cold Showers
You’ll look better, you’ll feel better, and you will be in a better state if you add colder showers into your arsenal.
The Spartans did it, the Samurai’s did it, hell even James Bond did it. Cold Showers will instantly separate you from the pack, there will be a different feel about you and you will be stronger mentally. For more on this go back an read “Cold Shower Your Way To Beautiful Women”.
7. Give Girls To Your Friends
No one likes the selfish guy who tries to keep everything for himself. If you won a billion dollars would you keep it all to yourself or would you share it with your friends and love ones? An abundance mentality is what creates abundance, if you act as if you have many girls at your disposal, eventually you will.
And the best way to do this is to take action to represent it. You can’t bang them all; introduce and hook up friends with some of the girls you’re after.
8. Dress to Impress
We all know the feeling when we put on a nice suit and look at the Demi-God in the mirror. Dressing good is an instant way to feel good and when you feel good, people feel good being around you. Take pride in what you wear, iron your shirts, and properly tie the bow on your shoes.
9. Eat Healthy
I have two words for you… ” One Ingredient “. If you look at the labels of all of the processed foods we eat today many of them are filled with ingredients that we can barely even pronounce.
Nine times out of ten these things are unhealthy additives that we all should steer away from. Unhealthy food has been scientifically proven to cause anxiety, aggravation and confusion. If you’re not eating properly, your brain isn’t functioning properly.
10. Stay In Shape
I remember listening to an interview a while back with a guy speaking on health that changed my life. He said something like ” When you’re heart is healthy, every breath you take is like a shot of F1 fuel into your Ferrai. When you’re unhealthy every breath is like pouring vegetable oil into your broke down beat-up car. Now don’t you want to drive a Ferrari? ” Its safe to say that when we’re healthy we just function better as people over-all. You don’t need to be in shape to get women, trust me. But you will feel better as a whole and that’s all anyone could ask for.
11. Develop A Circle of Female Friends
Once you get off your ass and start to meet more women you are going to understand that its not smart to try and fuck every attractive girl that comes your way. Its important to have your own social circles and women do bring a lot of credibility into the circle. Not to mention, Hot girls have hot friends and when you build a strong enough rapport with them they won’t mind hooking you up with a few of there friends.
12. Online Dating is for The Normal Men
Online dating is awesome, we’ve had our fun with it. Its amazing to be able to access thousands of women at the click of a button. But we realized that we are being selfish because we are stealing women away from the men who don’t yet have to confidence to meet women any other way. Save online dating for the men who can not and will not become Players.
13. You Must Touch her
Those PUA guys call this ” Kino”. Well yea, they aren’t completely clueless. Breaking the touch barrier allows a woman to know that you are confident, Bad-ass, and you don’t play by the rules. Always go for the handshake, hug, or kiss(If you’re bold) upon first approaching a woman.
14. Keep Two Condoms At All Times
If you read the material on this site, you’re going to need them. Always be prepared and keep a spare or two in case one breaks. And besides, its better to have them and not need them than to need them and not have them.
15. Initiate Contact Twice For Every Three Times She Does
We know you probably want to play by your own rules but its important that the woman is always giving slightly more into the relationship than you are. It sets the tone that she is the one chasing you, because after all she should be. You’re the bad-ass playboy that no woman can’t quite get to settle down. Once strong rapport and the flow of the conversation has been established, let her initiate contact three times before you follow up by initiating her twice. This will keep her chasing you forever.
16. No Matter How You feel, Get Up, Get Dressed And Go Out.
You’re not always going to feel your best. Sometimes you may even be a little depressed but despite how you feel, always get up, get dressed and hit the scene. Staying in the house doing nothing but watching television while shoving ice cream down your throat is not going to do anything positive for you. Man up, be a Player and get on out there house. There are guys out there depending on you.
17. She Cares More About Your Thoughts Of Her Than She Does Her Thoughts Of You
Stop worrying about what anyone thinks about you because we can guarantee you that people are more concerned with their own-selves than they are with you. Women you approach are you wondering if they’re attractive, if there is food in their teeth or if their makeup is smudging. The second thing on their minds may be what they think about you and your approach but it is definitely not the first. Use this to your advantage, she’d rather she make a strong impression on you than you make one on her.
18. Hold Eye Contact Until She Breaks It First
There is one thing Players know for certain about women in relationships. They want to know that the man in there lives is strong enough to deal with more tension than they can. You know that feeling you get when you are making eye contact with women and it becomes a game of who is going to look away first ? ALWAYS.. I REPEAT ALWAYS win this battle. Show her who the man is, show her you can deal with more tension than she can. This goes for a the handshake as well. When you shake a woman’s hand let her be the first to pull away. Players are unmoved by the tension, we are strong and steady.
19. Grow To Love Rejection
When you learn to enjoy different variations of rejection the same way you enjoy acceptance you will be unstoppable. Players laugh when a girl rejects us because she has no idea what she is missing out on. Its humorous really, imagine if you had a ten million dollar check hidden in an envelope and you walked around seeking to give it to someone worthy. Wouldn’t you snicker to yourself at all the people who rejected the envelope without taking the time to see what’s inside it? If they only knew.. If she only knew.
20. Trust In Your Player Instincts
Pay close attention to your hunches and follow them like they’re a treasure map leading you to a fortune. As long as you aren’t purposely affecting anyone else in a negative way do whatever the **** you want! Your instincts are your subconscious speaking to you, leading you to fulfill your purpose. And before you fulfill your purpose, you must first be free. Your instincts will lead you to freedom.
21. Walk Away, Even When She’s Hot
The willingness to walk away from anyone woman is what will cause you to radiate a presence that will make you desirable to all women. Practice walking away from the hot women who don’t quite live up to the high standards you set for yourself. Practice saying ” No ” to offers of attractive women who want to have sex with you. Its tough a first but a little pain now will pay off later.
22. Keep A Clean Home
They say cleanliness is next to Godliness and it is always a reflection of your state of mind. People who’s homes are never clean tend to be filled with some much clutter mentally. The outside is always a reflection of your inside. Not to mention as a Player your are going to be having a lot of women over and no-one wants to walk into a dirty home. And after you bring enough women into your home, you won’t have to do much cleaning on your own.
23. Define Your Purpose And The Women Will Follow
Figure out what your purpose is in life and follow it at all cost. Women are attracted to a man with drive and ambition. Follow your purpose and women will follow you everywhere you go. You can lose yourself chasing after women but your you’ll never lose women chasing after yourself.
24. Never Kiss And Tell
Don’t dare speak of who you sleep with to ANYONE- no-one needs to know. Who you sleep with is your business and women are more attracted to a man that knows how to keep a secret. It might be subconscious but they can always feel the difference between a man that yaps his gums about every new girl he bangs and one who doesn’t. When a woman knows you’re lips are sealed she will open up to you sexually in ways she hasn’t with no man before. Besides, if you’re talking about it. it probably doesn’t happen often.
25. Stop Keeping Score
Who are you trying to impress by keeping a tally of the number of women you have sex with? Does it make you feel validated? Do you feel like more of a man? Players aren’t validated through sex, Players validate women through our own sex. The sooner you forget, the higher the forgotten number will be.
26. Keep Your Emotions In Check
As a Player it is your job to remain as stable and strong as a ox. A woman wants a man that won’t be reactive to her ever changing moods and emotions. She wants a man who is solid, someone she can lean on and rely on when things get tough.
If your woman ran into your arms crying about something thats going on in her life how foolish would you look if you broke down crying right with her? Thats what her girlfriends are for, she doesn’t count on her man to mirror her femininity.
27. Its Okay To Be A Bit Wreckless With Your Sexuality
Telling a woman she looks ” Sexy” is 10x better than tell her she looks “Cute”. Little puppies are cute, babies are cute, she didn’t put on that tight dress and heels to be called cute. Be sexual and be confident about your sexuality. After all, its her fault she looks so damn attractive, we didn’t ask her to come to the same venue we are in looking so hot did we?
28. Use The Smile
A smiling man is the sign of a happy man, peoples guards instantly come down, and it inspires them to smile as well. Smiling – even if its a forced smile released endorphins into the blood stream which make us feel better. A smiling man also looks confident and attractive in the moment. A smile is the greatest accessory a Player can wear.
29. She Can Never Be Number 1
No woman will respect a man that put her completely first in his life. Every man should have a life mission of his own that comes before his woman. We all have a duty that we must attend to whether our woman is around or not. Figure out whats number one if your life and put nothing above it and you will always have a woman’s respect.
30. Call Before You Text
Far too often men complain that they just don’t know what to say when texting a girl. That is usually a result of not building a firm enough connect the first time you guys spoke. If you guys want to win at this whole dating and seduction thing, you are going to have to learn how to pick up the phone and physically talk to women on the phone. One solid 30-45 min phone call will have a woman after you for weeks. Players aren’t pussies, we don’t have to hide behind text messages, we pick up the phone and call our girls.
31. Be Upfront About Your Intentions
I know Players get a bad rep for breaking hearts and hurting women’s feelings but that’s not what we’re hear to do. If a woman likes you enough, she will still sleep with you when you tell her ” You’re not looking for a relationship, just something casual”. Lying only puts someone else’s emotions in danger and adds guilt to your own consciousness. So be up front with the women you meet before things get serious.
Players are awesome story telling. They’re the guy in the group telling jokes and making everyone laugh. It would honestly be tough for anyone pursuing there dreams, seducing women, and making friend to be anything but entertaining. This one is a giving, but as a Player you are the voice and entertainer of the social circle you’re in.
33. Moderate Your Alcohol Intake
We know you wanna have fun and get drunk when you go out but we have to be mindful of the choices we make. We’ve all made terrible decisions with Mrs.wrong after ingesting too much alcohol and as a Player you can’t afford too many slip-ups. Drink if you wanna losen up a bit, but don’t drink to get shitfaced wasted. Players are leaders, no one should have to carry you home because you lack self control.
34. Go Hard Or Go Home
What separates Players from the rest of the guys out there is, Players actually go in for the kill. Players understand that the higher our goals the easier everything lower our goals become accessible. If you have sex with a girl, kissing her won’t be an issue. Unlocking the higher of things automatically unlocks what’s lower. When we’re out, are aim upon approach is to take the girl we’re after home, we only settle for the number if logistics don’t allow the extraction to take place.
35. Befriend The Bouncers/Doormen/Bartenders
Bouncers are usually perceived as assholes, but they can be your best-friends if you show them a little extra attention. Every night guys are walking on past them without giving them a second glance. Show them a little love and all the perks of knowing the bouncer will be at your disposal.
36. You’re A Player, Embrace It
Once it becomes obvious that you are good with women, people are going to call you out on it. ” You’re a Player aren’t you? “. Don’t wuss out and pretend you aren’t – hold eye contact with them and say “So?”. Being called a Player is a compliment if you think about it. Technically all they’re is saying is “Wow, you’re really good with women.”
37. Never Show Shame
Whether its premature ejaculation or getting blatantly rejected in front of everyone; a Player never shows nor feels any shame. A Player has fully accepted himself and his imperfections so there is never a need to feel shame about any action he’s taken. The Player simply smiles, and figures out a way to improve.
38. Every Stranger Is A Friend
A Player perceives everyone he sees as a potential friend until they show him otherwise. He knows everyone isn’t going to like him, but his respect and love for all people forces him to be kind anyone that crosses his path.
39. Ignore The Short Cuts
Anyone that has ever done anything for themselves understands that the satisfaction felt from taking a short-cut is temporary. Hard work pays off and the Player knows this; he makes it his priority to do things the right way and he encourages others to do the same.
40. Count Your Blessings
Although a Player may be one of the more ambitious types of people on the planet, he never forgets what he has while in pursuit of he wants. A Player is always grateful for what comes into his life; he understands that everyone won’t survive this today, so he cherishes every moment that he has. When we are thankful for what we already have, life finds a way of giving us more.
41. Arguments Are For Politicians
How many times can you honestly say you’ve won an argument? What do you gain for proving another man wrong and winning an argument? An Inflation of your ego is all and pride certainly comes before the fall. A Player sees no reason to enter endless rants on how much he disagrees with another. The Player is too busy, smiling, making people feel good and having a fun time. When we take the time to argue with others what we are projecting to them is that we’re on the same level as they are, but a Player is on a level of his own.
42. Make Peace With Your Past
Most peoples 30’s are spent making up for all the wrong things they did in their 20’s. Life has a way of coming back to meet us full circle so its important that we leave no stone unturned. A Player takes out the time to make peace with the people and choices he’s made in his past so it doesn’t screw up his present. He understand he must make room for his future because the best is yet to come.
43. Today Is Special
There is no time as special as this time you are in right now – make the most of it. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, drink from the fancy wine glasses etc. A Player lives a life of abundance, he doesn’t have to save materialistic items for some “perfect day” because to him no moment is as perfect as the moment he is in right now.
44. Never Blame Others
It doesn’t matter whether some problem that you have was caused by someone else. Blame wont get you anyway. Players take responsibility for their own lives. They know that only they have the power to make their dreams realities and rather than blaming others for the bad things in their lives, they concentrate on overcoming all obstacles and moving forward with their lives.
45. Build Your Character While Your Alone
The decisions we make when no-one we know is their to encourage and support us are the choices that contribute the most to who we become as people. Its easy to go out and make that approach when you have a group of friends to turn to for comfort after your done. A Player lives to push his comfort zones and boundaries far beyond what anyone else expects from him, and he does so even more when there is no one watching.
46. Raise Your Standards and Expectations
The more you expect out of life the more you will get out of life; refuse to accept anything that is less than what you know you are deserving of. Life challenges all Players so its important that we remain strong and remember to say NO to anything that isn’t quite up to our standards.
47. Go Outside Everyday
In this age of technology, fewer and fewer people are spending as much time outside as they used to. We never know who we will meet at the park, mall, or local grocery story. Make a point everyday to put the electronics down, get some fresh air, and meet a few new people while you’re at it. Its as good for the body and mind as it is for the soul.
48) Break The Rules
These laws are here to give you a fundamental foundation to live by as a Player. However, there always comes a time when a man must break a law in pursuit of his purpose. Sometimes rules are meant to be broken if it means fulfilling your destiny.
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