For many men, this has probably been an issue for them at some point in their lives and they have probably felt like they were all alone.
Men don’t really want to admit to other men that they’re intimidated by beautiful women. They feel like to admit that they are innately afraid of beautiful women, is to face the harsh truth that they are not living up to their own expectations of how a man should act.
For a man to have good confidence, it is so important that they are able to feel like a man. This fear of approaching beautiful women can drive a lot of men to feelings of shame and unworthiness and this in turn can lead to feelings of helplessness and depression. All because we can’t live up to our own ideals and we think that we are the only ones with this problem.
Beautiful Women Don’t Have It Easy Either
For many beautiful women, they are not even aware of just how intimidating they can be to men.
They buy a nice sexy dress, they put on their best make-up, they go out with their friends thinking they will meet some nice quality guys but they only get hit on by sleazeballs. But rather than thinking to themselves, ‘the nice guys aren’t hitting on me because I’m a stunning and intimidating woman’. They will assume the worst and think that men aren’t hitting on them because they are too fat, too ugly, or (insert irrational insecurity here)
And the deeper the insecurity, the larger the bitchiness walls they erect to protect themselves. They start dismissing perfectly good guys because they are too afraid to open up to the wrong guy and get hurt, so guys need to work even harder and be even cleverer to get beautiful women to trust them enough to want to get to know them.
So where does this end? Distrust, insecurity, negativity, depression. Can all of these bad things be caused by a little irrational fear and a lack of understanding?
Just look at the case of any war, that has ever happened.
Fear is one of the most powerful forces on Earth. It can make people act absolutely insane. It can cause people to isolate themselves completely. It can drive people to hurt those they love and betray our better natures.
If fear can cause such chaos and destruction. Then why would anyone want it in their lives? Why would anyone open the door to that, if they know what misery it can bring?
If you are a man and you are intimidated by beautiful women, then you are setting yourself up for a life time of confusion, anger and disappointment. If you feel helpless to overcome your fear of beautiful women, then you will look for someone to blame and you will end up alienating yourself further and further from women, and your chances of ever finding happiness.
When I go out with the guys of the Wolfpack; we make sure that all the new guys approach at least one girl throughout the night and have a conversation. Because we all know that before they can get anywhere and enjoy any kind of success with life and women, they first need to face that fear that so many men have. Once they have faced it once, we will push one another to face it again and again until the fear is mostly gone and replaced with excitement and curiosity.
You don’t need to be afraid of beautiful women. They are just people and the more you talk to them the more amazed you will be at the complexity of people and how everyone you meet can teach you something new about the world and yourself.
Face your fears. You might feel alone sometimes but everyone does. It’s up to you to go out and connect with the world around you but first you must remove fear and all of the bad things it brings with it.
By Kieran Black[social_share\]