Hi everyone at WayOfThePlayer.com, I am Andreas Jacobsen and I am a content contributor for this excellent resource of dating ,sex , and relationship success. This is my first blog post, and in this post I am going to discuss something extremely important for your success with women.
A lot of the guys I meet and know dream of being in open relationships; having the freedom to sleep with whoever they want, while enjoying the excitement of meeting new women, and still getting sex regularly.
However, they don’t dare to go for it. Usually these guys only talk about how they wish they did not have to be in an exclusive relationship and that is just sad! The only reason you should ever be in an exclusive relationship is if it is with a woman that you love. If you love each other, I am all in for being in a committed relationship!
Please, for the love of god, don’t be in a relationship just because it is comfortable and safe. If there is no love, go for the open relationships and the one night stands.
In this first part of this article series, I will focus on being in casual relationships with women you meet during the nighttime in bars and clubs.
First part of getting into casual relationships with women, you meet from bars and clubs, is to be highly sexual in your approach. Let the sexual tension be almost unbearable; look her deeply into her eyes, visualize her naked and sweaty, imagine her screaming your name in ecstasy. Listen to her intensively. With this approach, some women may find you creepy but that is okay; the women who are attracted to you will respond very positively to this kind of sexual tension.
You are there to meet some women, you want to have sex with. Show that through your body language.
If you are planning to keep this woman in an open relationship and not just for a one night stand, it is important for her to trust you. It is important that she doesn’t feel like a slut for going home with you. The way to do this is through actually connecting with her and caring about what she has to say.
This is also important for yourself as well. Do you want an open relationship with someone you can’t stand to be around? Allow yourself to be picky! It is your life and only the best women, who are compatible with your personality, are allowed to be in your life.
Share your thoughts on sexuality
As it is often spoken of in the PUA community, women have a very hard time with society and its rules for women. Women who sleep with a lot of guys, are sluts and men are studs. We get it.
Have you tried actually talking with women about this? Let her know that you understand her point of view and will never consider her (or any woman) to be a slut simply because she is a little open minded sexually. This is a good thing!
Share all your insights in the area of sexual liberation for women, and you will have set the mood for her to safely go home with you and engage in an open relationship with you.
Be honest, but charming
This is where most men go wrong… It is completely okay to want to sleep with a lot of women at the same time if your intentions are good! So you should be honest about it, but there is a difference between being honest and a dick, and being honest and charming.
When you want to tell her about your desire to be in open relationships, don’t just say this: “I don’t want to be in a relationship with you, I only want to have sex with you.” This will make a woman feel cheap and slutty, and she won’t go ahead with it. You might get some women with this approach, but there is a better approach…
Highlight all the good things about an open relationship and your intentions for being in one!
To give you an example, here is what I usually say:
“I am not currently looking to settle down in an exclusive relationship yet, there is simply too much going on in my life right now. However, I truly love and adore women, and I would still love to feel the excitement and passion that comes from being with beautiful women like yourself.”
This communicates the right intentions for being in an open relationship, for me at least. There is a lot of mutual respect in this statement, and it will never trigger her slut-alarm.
Consider your own reasons for being in an open relationship and then make a statement that is charming and honest at the same time. Try it! Women love the honesty.
Going home together
When the time has come to go home together, it pretty much comes down to logistics. Do you live nearby or does she? If not, it can be pretty hard to go home together.
Now, sex can happen anywhere! Go somewhere just a little private, where you won’t be disturbed, and then go for it. I am not a big fan of public sex however; I like the intimacy and freedom that comes from having sex in an actual property.
If you or her lives nearby, the challenge is going home together. She shouldn’t feel as a slut, so guarantee that the two of you won’t go further than she is comfortable with, and your only guarantee for the night is good company.
When you are home together, escalate and have sex. Then take the relationship from there.
There are a lot of ways to do this, and this is simply my own way of doing things. One last thing to note: it all comes down to right kind of girl. Not all women will be interested in an open relationship, and that is quite okay! Just keep searching for the women who are open to the idea.
Before I go, perhaps you want to know a little bit about me?
My name is Andreas Jacobsen and I am 20 years old and live in Denmark. Despite of my young age, I have been a contributing member of the PUA society for years. Discovering the world of dating advice in a young age allowed me to internalize some beliefs and design my life, which has given me quite an advantage over the “average joe” 20 year old.
I started out a shy virgin, but today I can’t even believe how far I have come. I have absolutely no problem attracting women and getting sex, it is simply not an issue anymore. It has been a long and scary journey, and the journey has only just begun. I hope that by contributing to WayOfThePlayer.com I can grow as man and continue my journey towards excellence, whilst at the same time inspiring and helping you, my fellow men.
I hope you enjoyed this article and will enjoy the articles to come!
Please leave some comments and tell me about yourself and your sticking points so that we can get to know each other a little better!
So until next time..