How To Get Laid On OkCupid

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How To Get Laid On OkCupid

Note: This article is not endorsed by OkCupid. It has been independently written and published on Way of the Player.

Anyone of you readers having trouble getting online-dating to  work for you? I’m going to give you all an easy to follow simple guide  to securing lays on OkCupid. I have been getting email after email  from guys asking me to help them with online dating; and since I don’t  use it anymore, why not lay out all the secrets that once worked  for me and the few people I shared them with.

50% Of this guide is  setting your profile up in a way where girls will message you first  and all you have to do is finish the job. You’ll become the prize and  because of this you’ll dictate how this interaction turns out.

Now first let me say, if you are still at the stage where you aren’t  capable of having a solid 30-45 min phone conversation this will not  work for you. Second, this is not a guide to starting a successful  relationship, this is a simply a guide to securing easy lays through  the use of the internet. We’ll start from the ground up.

Here goes:

Pick A Catchy Username

You wouldn’t believe how many times I have been messaged on an online  dating site just because a girl was curious about my username. Before  they had even read my profile or saw more than my main picture they  were already filled with curiosity to contact me. Usernames that  other people have already chosen that you add random numbers to  aren’t going to get you anywhere. Take the time out and find a username that fits you that is catchy, mysterious, and most importantly  original.

No Selfies

This is where things can get a bit tricky for guys who don’t have any  exciting or interesting pictures. Online dating is all about your  perceived value; pictures showing you out having a good time,  traveling, taking part in competitive events, winning awards etc. are  all pictures that create an image of a guy with a high perceived  value. The pictures aren’t going to be as important as the content on  your profile but don’t think for a second that your pictures won’t  give you a huge boost in messages and responses. Girls that look at  your profile look for things to comment on; so even if they are  interested in you they may not message you simply because they  couldn’t think of anything to say. Make it easy on them and put up  pictures that show you being you, there are enough guys snap-shooting  themselves in the mirror with their cell phones.

Writing A Good Profile

There are two rules to this..

Rule #1 Get Creative

Rule #2 Don’t Take yourself too serious

Here is a revised version of my old online dating profile to give you  an idea on how to get this done.

“Hey ladies, my name is Adam, I’ve recently had a terrible divorce  with my wife Eve. I left her with our two sons Kain & Abel, and I kept  the pet snake Lucifer. I couldn’t take it anymore, she just wouldn’t  stop eating all the apples! And what makes it even worse is she would  blame the snake for everything. So I’m back on the market ; I  can run, jump, hunt, and make anything from fig leaves…”

It went on for a few more sentences and girls would just eat it up. If  you can help yourself, don’t copy and paste that to your profile  because its not the original; you’ll be trying to keep up with the mind of the person who wrote it.

Follow this motto throughout the rest of your profile and you will be  as good as golden. On the ” What I’m doing with my life” section don’t  go into fine details as to what you are actually doing; save that for  the first date, if there is one. Something vague like ” Its  complicated” will get you a lot more messages than going into depth on  what you are actually spending your life doing.

The first things people usually notice about you, is probably your  ‘super powers’ or ‘ you noticing them’, not so much any of your actual  features. Get it ?

The six things I could never do with out – once again, get creative. I  believe  mines were something like:

Free Wifi

Your netflix password


Speeding tickets

The bible

A beard

But once again, I would seriously encourage you to make your own. This  isn’t going to work for you unless you put the work in.

My Details

On the my details section fill out everything except your religion,  zodiac sign, select job as “other”, and your income. Girls pay  attention to a lot of zodiac sign/personality material so if they  can’t think of anything to message you with they can easily just ask  you what your sign is.

Match Questions

We already know that guys seeking to get laid instantly click over to  a girls match questions to the “Sex Section”  to find out whether the  girl is what mainstream society would consider a whore or not. And  after doing this for a while I’m sure you’ve came to the conclusion  that the girls who’s questions suggest they are just looking for sex  aren’t as easy to lay as it appears. Mainly because they are  constantly bombarded with messages from guys who think they are just  going to ” Fuck anyone ” because they want no string attached sex.

From my personal experience, there is no difference from the girl who  says they’ll have sex in 1-2 dates from the girl who says “6 or more”.  If you are on your game you can lay them all on the first night.

Answer the majority of the questions however you wish, but the two that girls pay the most attention to are when trying to find out what  you’re on the website for is

“Say you’ve started seeing someone you really like. As far as you’re  concerned, how long will it take before you have sex?” Select 3-5  dates.


Regardless of future plans, what’s more interesting to you right now?  Its fine to select “Sex” for this one. I can’t picture any man  selecting ” True Love”

Girls will read your questions, but once they become interesting in  you after a few messages the questions won’t matter.

Disclaimer: Don’t all noodles and answer a million match questions; I would advise most guys to leave 95% of the sex related questions unanswered – It definitely keeps the mystery alive; you don’t want anything thinking they know what you’re all about before they’ve even given you  a chance.

Now here comes the easy part…

Perceived Value

As you can see on OkCupid, members are divded into three categories:  people that ” Reply Often(Green)” “Reply Selectively(yellow)”, and  those who ” Reply Very selectively (red) “. Now whats the first thing  that goes into your mind when you come across a girl that replies very  selectively? ” She must get a lot of messages”, which translates to,  she is very desirable/she has a lot of options. So what would make you  seem more desirable? If you had a red dot to go along with your  profile.. correct? This is exactly what you are going to do. Just make  7-8 random profiles of anything you want, you don’t have to put  pictures up, and you don’t even have to use a ” Real email address”.  Okcupid doesn’t have a verify your email setting like other sites.  Message yourself about 3-4 times saying “Hi” or whatever you want on  each profile and this will instantly give you the ” Replies Very  Selectively Dot” . This way you will instantly stand apart from 85% of  the male members on OkCucupid who only have green dots. It’ll take you  15 mins the most to get this done.

Google & Download an Free Mouse AutoClicker

On the quick match section of OkCupid you get to rate girls from 1 to  5 stars and when you rate them either 4 or 5 stars OkCupid notifies  them that you’re interested. So what I figured was, if I download an  auto click and set it to 1 second per click, I could move my mouse clicker over to the 4 or 5 stars and rapidly notify hundreds of girls  that I am ” interested ” while I am outside running errands, cleaning  my place, or working. I would return to my comp after a few hours and  have 50+ messages from girls who will all notified by OkCupid to check  me out. If they are interested they will in return click “5 stars on  your profile and you will both be sent a message that says this:

“We chose each other! Hey “your Username, We chose each other! “

This is from Plenty Of Fish, this method is just as successful with their  ” Meet Me” section.

OkCupid sure does make this easy don’t they?

At this point all you have to do is say something like “Aww I feel like a pokemon! lol I’m Eddie =P” and you’re off into a conversation. After 4-5  messages just pull for her number, call her up at that moment while  the iron is hot, talk on the phone, escalate sexually, and invite her  over to your place for “a glass of wine and  a game of ‘I Declare war'”

Not only does this method create a lot of opportunity for girls to check out your profile and message you but it also will open up the doorway for you to message girls that viewed your profile but couldn’t think of anything to say.

This same method can be used on POF’s “MEET ME” section and when its all said and done, your inbox will look a little something like this!

My Current Inbox


When it comes to messaging girls first remember one thing ” invest  little to nothing”. All you have to say is “Hey” with a  question of something from their profile and your first name  underneath like a letter. All those extra long messages about how you are her knight and shinning armor get disregarded before they get a  chance to read the second line. Why would you invest so much energy  into someone you know nothing about unless your desperate? I’m sure  you have better things to do.

Once again, if you don’t know how to escalate sexually via a phone  conversation, you have a bit more development to go through before this guide is going to work for you. But if you can, and you follow  this guide to a tee, you’ll be getting laid in a matter of hours.

 Eddie Fews

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  • Lord Collin

    I woke up to an inbox of 24 messages, 50+ visitors morning! Thanks WOTP!

  • Brian

    This is an awesome article, I’m implementing these things in my profile. Could you give an example of a conversation with one of the girls? Just so I can see how you take it from curious to flirty within the 5 messages?


  • Its really a lot easier than you think..If your profile is on point anything you say is 2x more effective.

    On the ” I spend a lot of time thinking about ” section..This girl listed “How to make my first million before 30″

    So I messaged her ” Alright so lets join forces! We each have a million to make 😉 ”

    Her: ( Read my profile and was obviously interested) Lol.. No Eddie.. I rather make my millions solo and then hire you perhaps for my staff… Lol just teasing..

    Nice to e-meet you, I’m Danielle 😉

    Me: ( dodging her “put down/test” ) I read the profile, you sure know how to make yourself sound good. What percentage of your profile is actually you =P

    Her: Lol why thank you I do have a way with words lol but sadly only 5% is true.. Lol I needed a lot of filler words to buff that bad boy up lol…

    So Eddie how are you on this lovely Friday ? Are you ecstatic it’s the weekend ?

    Me: Hey, you wanna just talk to me on the phone? This whole message thing blows.

    Her: Lol…talk verbally or via text ?

    Me: Verbal

    Her: Good answer 😉 718-***-****

    The chick was easily a solid 8

    But as you can see.. her interest level was so high, just off of the profile. I didn’t have to do much.

    Let me know if you want more examples

  • Martin

    Wow ! Could you give some more examples of initiating and continuing a message conversation leading to a phone call ?

  • You may as well call the last couple of points in this “How to lose your OKCupid account in a day.”

  • Hey Mike,

    What did you do exactly?

    I had my account for over a year. A lot of my clients and friends have as well.

  • OKC Cassanova

    I just came across this…I know it’s 2 years old, but it’s worth the bump and my comment. If you have any game at all, and I mean even just a little bit, you almost have to try NOT to get laid on there. I’m a married guy, 50, who travels for business, and have gotten more action off of OKC than everywhere else combined. San Francisco is by far the best…getting laid in San Fran on OKC is too easy…I bumped up the challenge there, and went first for a threesome (check), and then for a lesbian, to see if I could (I did, though she was bi, her GF didn’t know, and she just wanted some dick). I worked up there every other week for a year, and never failed to score at least once. Some weeks, 2 or 3 times. Great city.

    I’ve gotten laid in Fan Fran, LA, Chicago, Minneapolis (another GREAT city to get laid in), Cleveland and all over Southern California. You just have to be very direct. Using the methods here get my foot in the door. If I get a reply, I escalate right in the messages, and make it clear what I’m looking for.

    Trust me, 50% of the women on there are looking to get laid, no matter what they say. More than half the women I’ve had were married. I’m about to spend two weeks in Seattle, and I’ve already started to line things up there. 🙂

    • The whole red light, green light, yellow light thing, is no longer in affect. Too bad, it definitely helped separate the wheat from the chaff.

      Thanks for you comment man Appreciate it.