Usually when I’m scanning the internet reading articles from various seducers I begin to notice a common theme. And it is this theme that is preventing many men from achieving the levels of success we’re each capable of.
It appears to me that the larger percentage of articles on the net focus on the negative aspects of seduction and being successful socially. I.e: ” 10 things NOT to do while on a date; 5 reasons you are NOT getting laid, Why women DON’T find you attractive”.
How is it that the guys that claim they are having success with women keep giving advice on what “not” to do. Let’s take a look at this from another angle: Imagine that you’ve never heard the sport “basketball” in your entire life and then one day you see a few guys getting ready to play; you walk up to them and ask if they could teach you what needs to be done to be successful at the sport.
They sit you down and begin explaining to you what not to do: ” don’t tackle your opponent to the floor, don’t kick the ball, don’t give up etc” What would you know about the sport of basketball? Instead of teaching you the basic fundamentals like ” only dribble with one hand at a time, shoot and aim for the goal etc” you been filled with a bunch of don’ts which leaves you in a hole that’s deeper than the one you were in before knowing anything about the sport. Your mind now only knows what “Not” to do.
I’m here speaking as a living example when I say that you can do this. You are fully capable; even a lot more capable than I or any other renowned seducer in this world is to become great with beautiful women. The toughest obstacle you will ever have to get over within seduction or anything else in life is just believing you can do it; filling your mind and spirit with the confidence that if you work hard enough at seduction or anything else in the world you will prevail.
We are each filled with a well of greatness that is waiting burst out and be. The only thing stopping you is yourself.
If you want this bad enough to spend money on ebooks and coaching you have to get out there and begin practicing everything that you have learned. Knowledge is indeed power, but knowledge without action is foolish. What happens to a man locked away in cave filled with every book imaginable? If he can’t tell a soul or get out there to test his new-found knowledge what’s the point of learning? Are you simply obtaining knowledge for self amusement or to flex your information muscles at a dinner table? Imagine learning a new language and never once speaking it. If you want it, learn about it and when you learn about it, go get it or just come to the conclusion that maybe you just don’t want it bad enough. Maybe you enjoy being single? Maybe you like having dinner alone?
Now that’s fine, but if you don’t enjoy those things then take a break from reading and begin doing something about it; you are indeed capable.
When you want to teach someone something new. Or to be better at something they’re not good at. Remember to focus on the positives and the “do’s” more than anything else. If I asked you, “how do I properly crack an egg” you wouldn’t tell me ” don’t smash it against the wall”. Let’s just keep that in mind and keep the positivity and encouraging words flowing. Both on this website and in our outside lives; if giving all the proper “do’s” the don’ts are irrelevant.
Now although learning about a subject before you dive into is a helpful and fundamental practice, understand that it is not as easy as it sounds. Guys read information and think that they will be able to accomplish the things they have read with great ease just because they read about it.
I want to be honest with all of you and say yes this will be uncomfortable at first, yes you will be nervous and yes your heart will be racing the first time you approach a beautiful woman . Yes you may get turned away by the first ten beautiful women you try and talk to but are you going to let that stop you?
“Inner Game” is cool and all but it seems to disillude guys into thinking that if they say enough affirmations and practice enough positive thinking; one day they will wake up and be the biggest players on the planet. Guess what guys? That’s bullshit. This will be a struggle at first, this will be a challenge and it won’t be easy. Since when is anything worth having in life come easy anyway. Do all the meditation and visualizations you want but when it comes time to step out of you’re “comfort” zone, things will get “uncomfortable”.
Develop your skills with women, make attempts and fail a thousand times if you have to, because this is what’s going to shape you into player that you are seeking to become; and anyone thats ever worked really hard at something and then achieved it knows the feeling is unexplainable. Take all of the pain that comes with learning something new and it will change you’re life for the better.
Dating & Seduction Coach
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