So I was having a private conversation with an inspiring fellow who had a lot of questions on dating, seduction, and approaching women. He asked me one particular question and its a question many men on these forums ask but rarely get a concrete answer to. I’ve decided to share it with you guys today because I feel it could help many of you seeking to improve your overall inner game.
He wrote me: More generally I want to be approaching more women and saying some of the cool funny things I think of saying in my head but don’t because I’m worried about the social consequences or about delivering it wrong and ending up looking like an idiot. How does one become more fearless and just take these chances?
My Response: Well this is an awesome question – and it is also a question that very few people will give you a proper answer to. Most people will tell you, that ” you just have to push yourself to do it”; which is true but it is always easier said than done.
The truth of the matter is you just have to invest energy into having that outcome come to life. Put your energy in things with faith and you’ll slowly but surely see yourself becoming more comfortable. Heres what I mean.. I don’t know what your religious background is but if you’re a christian pray on it, if you’re a Buddhist meditate on it, if you’re a new age guy asked the universe to help you become more comfortable speaking your thoughts with confidence. The more energy you invest into making this come true outside of the situations when you need it, the easier it’ll be once you’re in those situation.
Anything you ask for will be giving to you… Maybe not in the time frame that you expect but it will always be giving to you.
I used to be really lazy and unmotivated to workout, hit the streets and talk to women etc. So I began praying for more motivation and ambition. I would pray twice a day for 30 days and I saw no results so I just stopped. 2 months after stopping I began feeling really motivated. I got in shape, started approaching women daily, making more money and I didn’t realize until 6 months later that I had gotten what I prayed for. It just hit me… I thought I had just got motivated all alone.. So i’ve been asking for what I want ever since.
My advice: Just as coach would tell and athlete the more effort you put into the game outside of the court, the better you’ll play once its game time.
His Response: Eddie, what have you done? You’ve got me, who has been a committed atheist for years, tripping balls on spirituality!
I will certainly want to quote your words in a thread at some point, but for now I think I just need to see where I’m going with this
What I will tell you is that as soon as I started praying, all my true desires started to come out and I realised how much of my motivations for this pickup thing were superficial and that I was failing to engage with women because the things that were on my mind weren’t real and didn’t matter. I’m realising that there is a deeper and more honest me and that I need to be at one with that guy if I’m going to experience real fulfillment or intimacy
So yeah, I think you might have made a bit of an impact 🙂
I’m curious on hearing the readers thoughts in the comment section below.
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