Becoming a player is no walk in the park. There are many trails and tribulations you must first encounter before you can crown yourself with the tittle. Life lessons are inevitable; we will all learn them despite the path we choose in life. But, the life lessons a player learns are unlike any other.
1. Failure is good
It’s happened to all of us. You see the girl. Take a deep breath. And approach. But before you can get started it’s already over and now you’re feeling worse than ever. If she doesn’t like you other girls probably won’t either. In fact, you may as well give up because if you were any good this would all come to you easily.
In short, you have failed which means now you’ll never be able to become a successful player.
But the truth is that you are never going to get anywhere without failing. And not just once but many, many times.
Michael Jordan, one of the greatest basketball players of all time once said “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed”. You wouldn’t expect yourself to be able to dunk like Mike as soon as you picked up a ball. Why is it any different with women?
Next time you’re rejected by a woman – and it will happen – stand up, brush yourself off and carry on. Yes, it really is that easy. These are incredible times and there are literally millions of single women out there who are just dying to meet you. So, get up. Get out. Hell, get rejected. But keep moving forward. It’s the only way you’ll ever become good at anything.
2. Always improve yourself
So many times when I’m out in the field, I’ll see men that fall into the dangerous trap of believing they’re way better with women than they really are. You probably know a few men like this already. They have a surplus of confidence and are able to number close a few women on an average night but not much else. They also believe that this means they have reached the apex of their abilities.
It does not.
I don’t care how good you are, you can always do better. How do you get better? Simple. With practice and hard work. There are no substitutes. There are no magic pickup lines. There are no shortcuts or quick fixes. There is only you and your sheer willpower. This is what will guide you on your journey to become a better man.
Next time you’re out on the town, look at your game. Are you generally happy with your abilities? What areas need improvement? How will you improve them?
If you do this and spend just a few minutes every week reflecting on your game and how you can improve it, you will become a far better Player than if you had simply gone about your business.
3. Confidence is power
Confidence is incredible. It works on anything and everything; men, women, children. Hell it even works on dogs. If even a dog can sense whether or not you are confident imagine how easy it would be for a women to do the same. When you are out gaming a girl – make no mistake – your body language does most of the talking. The way you move, the gestures you make, this is what is going to be the difference between failure and success. So, refine your body language as much as possible. Stand up tall. Stick your chest out like a symbol of pride and remember that you have a right to be there.
Don’t have enough confidence? That’s fine. There are many ways of boosting your confidence but I like to use affirmations. They’re quick, easy and work like a charm.
Affirmations are basically statements you say to yourself (out loud) that boost your confidence. For example, “I am an amazing person” is an affirmation. “Women love me and men want to be me” is an affirmation. “My lifestyle and personality are intriguing and interesting” is an affirmation. Think of it as mental conditioning. Next time you’re feeling down say an affirmation out loud, trust me they work.
4. Never idolize
Yes, it’s exactly what it sounds like. Sooner or later every player must learn that idolizing beautiful women is going to get them nowhere. Respect them and love them but never place them on a pedestal.
When you idolize a woman you are really just telling her that you don’t have options. So many guys fall into this trap and are either friend zoned or rejected by the woman but what’s worse is that since they never had the chance to actually date this woman they will continue to worship her like a goddess on the throne. Why? Because people want what they can’t have.
When she is the one doing the chasing, you establish yourself as the dominant one in the relationship. You are the one who holds all the cards. You are the one with all the power. And as a result, you are the one who she will fall in love with.
5. Knowledge is key
As a player you must be willing to devote a large amount of time to learning and refining skills that will enable you to easily and effectively attract women. Look for different ways in which you can talk to women. Experiment with new techniques and methods for attracting women. Get out there and use all your accumulated knowledge to your advantage and you will gradually evolve into a better player.
Just always remember that the art of attracting women is not some mystical talent that only some men are born with. It is a skill that can be learned as long as you are willing and able. So work hard, stay focused because everything is possible.
The Five Life Lessons You Learn Through Being A Player
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